Ashley Jamesのインスタグラム(ashleylouisejames) - 4月20日 16時50分

I don't know anyone who feels comfortable in their Postnatal body.

It's such a shame isn't it, that our body has just done this absolutely miraculous thing, and yet we feel so much self loathing.

I don't think it's as simple as blaming bounce back culture. Although don't get me wrong that has a LOT to answer for the unrealistic, and sometimes even dangerous pressure to look like you've not had a baby

But for me personally, and I'm sure lots of people, it's not about being 'bigger'. My weight always fluctuates and I really strongly know that beauty, confidence, and sexiness exists in all shapes and sizes. You just have to follow different women online to see that!

I also know, that being the smallest version of myself was when I was my most miserable.

For me it's more of feeling like a total stranger inside someone else's body.

Like remember those films where the protagonist would wake up in someone else's body. It's a bit like that.

You have no clue how to dress it. It all feels alien.

The leaky boobs, the inability to walk, the bleeding, and the fear of it functioning also really adds to that feeling of just feeling disgusting.

So when I catch myself in the mirror talking badly about my body. Worrying about body image... These are some of the things I tell myself to help reframe that narrative.

As for bounce back culture, all I know from my first birth is that it took a year for my bones to move back. I could have lived in the gym and I'd still not look like I did before.

But it also points to a wider problem in society: the idea that being the smallest version of ourselves is the healthiest. It's just not true. We've seen it recently with Ariana Grande and Selena Gomez having to speak publicly about their weight because of so much chatter about it.

I lost weight last time when I was ill and severely depressed. Yet people praised me for 'losing the baby weight'. It's such a grim term in itself. Especially when we live in a society that praises the dad bod.

Anyway, I wanted to share how I reframe my negative thoughts when I look in the mirror for anyone who needs to hear it.

And also to say, let's stop commenting on people's bodies. ❤️

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